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STANDARD RULES FOR FORMALITY ETIQUETTE
Formalities do Not Have To Be Strictly By-The-Rules. On The Other Hand, If You Plan To Be strict, the following chart will be a handy guide.
Very Formal
A very formal wedding will more likely take place in a church, synagogue or prestigious hotel than in a garden or local beach. This is usually for two hundred or more guests and can take place in the afternoon or after six o'clock p.m. for an evening wedding. Some characteristics of a very formal wedding would include: engraved invitations; semi-formal dress for guests and vendors with formal attire for the wedding party (including a long train and veil and full bouquet for the bride); a sit-down dinner or festive buffet with cocktails and hors d'oeuvres; dancing to a professional disc jockey, dance band, orchestra or combination of both; elaborate decorations including floral centerpieces; a large wedding party (four to twelve bridesmaids); and formal photographer and videographer with set-up shots, candid interviews, as well as candids. A very formal wedding is generally the most expensive option available to you.
Formal
The ceremony could be held in a church, synagogue, hotel, a home, garden, beach, or one of the many sites suggested here Recommended Wedding & Ceremony Locations which includes site selections such as a historic building, clubhouse or yacht. Traditionally, a formal wedding is for one hundred guests or more. A formal wedding would include: formal invitations; a bridal gown but less formal attire for attendants; a meal (but perhaps a luncheon or simple buffet) with cocktails and hors d'oeuvres; dancing to a professional disc jockey, dance band, or combination of both; floral arrangements in a church or at the head table; a medium-sized wedding party (two to six bridesmaids); and professional photography and or videographer.
Semi-Formal
Locations for semi-formal wedding can be more varied and a single location for ceremony and reception is more common for a semi-formal wedding. This style of wedding would include one hundred or less guests. Invitations can be simple, without inserts and return cards; dress is less formal, with the bride perhaps wearing a less elaborate dress (floor length or shorter); food may be in the form of a simple buffet; dancing to a professional disc jockey, dance band, or combination of both, simple decorations, a smaller wedding party (one or two bridesmaids) and mostly candid photography with a few setup shots.
Casual or Informal
Locations are unlimited. Guests can be limited to family members and very close friends. Invitations could be as simple as a phone call or personal invitation; dress is casual with the bride wearing a street length dress or suit; food might be limited to cake with punch or champagne or perhaps cocktails and hors d'oeuvres; entertainment is optional but the majority use a professional disc jockey; decorations are optional; the wedding party may consist of a maid or matron of honor and best man only; and a personal friend may be responsible for capturing the event with a camera. An informal or casual wedding is probably the least expensive wedding option.
Check out the possibilities!
Make your wedding uniquely fit the two of you. If none of the above are just right, consider these ideas and keep on imagining until you are both happy with the plan. It's YOUR wedding, make it as special as the two of you. Guidelines to formality are not written in stone, and many wedding traditions are challenged regularly. On the other hand, the majority of my clients utilize and create a mixed selection of the standard rules for etiquette.
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STANDARD RULES FOR ETIQUETTE
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Very Formal |
Formal |
Semi-Formal |
Casual or Information |
| Location |
Church,
Synagogue, Temple or prestigious hotel |
Church,
hotel, home, garden or other possibilities |
Church, home, many possibilities |
Open |
| # Guests |
200 or more |
100 or more |
100 or less |
Family and close friends |
| Bridal Gown |
Floor length gown with long train |
Floor length gown, long train okay |
Floor length or shorter |
Street-length dress or suit |
| Bridal Veil |
Long veil |
Veil |
Short veil |
Short veil, or hat |
| Gloves |
Long gloves with short sleeved or sleeveless gown |
Optional Short or medium length gloves |
No gloves |
No gloves |
| Bridesmaids |
Floor length gowns, headpieces and gloves |
Floor length or tea length dresses and gloves |
Tea-length or street length dresses, no gloves or hats |
Street length dresses or suits |
| Groom/Men |
Full dress tailcoat, cut-away coast for daytime |
Tuxedo, dress shirt |
Tuxedo or dinner jacket, dress shirt |
Suit with dress shirt |
| Food |
Full sit-down dinner, catered or elaborate buffet with hors d'oeuvres |
Buffet, dinner or catered luncheon with hors d'oeuvres |
Buffet, Optional hors d'oeuvres |
Cake and champagne, maybe hors d'oeuvres |
| Floral Decor |
Elaborate for church and reception |
Arrangements in church, at head table |
Simple Decorations |
Optional |
| Wedding Party |
Large wedding party - many attendants, include flower girls, ring bearer, and train bearer |
Medium-sized wedding party |
Small
wedding party, maybe one or two attendants plus maid of honor and best man |
Maid of honor and best man |
| # of Bridesmaids |
4-12 |
2-6 |
1 or 2 |
Maid/Matron of honor |
| Invitations |
Engraved with insert cards, return cards |
Formal invitations |
Simple printed invitations |
Personal invitation or phone call |
| Vendor Dress |
Tuxedo
Never Casual |
Tuxedo or business formal
Never Casual |
Tuxedo, business formal or dress shirt with tie |
dress shirt with tie |
The above is very important... I have experienced seeing vendors showing up to work formal weddings wearing clothing more appropriate for a radio or trip to the Tampa Fair. Most vendors would love to dress casual in light comfortable clothing, however, if the majority of your guests are dressed formal, the vendors dressed in black T-shirts or polo-shirts will not look professional. Unlike the dishwasher, cooks and behind the scene vendors, event Coordinators, Directors, professional Disc Jockey, Emcee, Photographers and Videographers are in front of the crowds. |
| Advertising At Event |
Never, this means signs or banners |
Never, this means signs or banners |
Never, this means signs or banners |
Never, this means signs or banners |
Usually the entertainment has a table that vendors could drop off business cards for inquiries. The best advertisement is quality workmanship and your follow-up referrals. A huge sign may not go well with the décor. Also, this is very important, if I'm your Disc Jockey/Emcee having another vendor walking around with a shirt that says XYZ vendor and disc jockey service, and they are not your DJ would not be very professional. |
| Music |
Professional Disc Jockey,
Emcee, Dance Band, Orchestra or combination |
Professional Disc Jockey,
Emcee, Dance Band or combination |
Professional Disc Jockey |
Professional Disc Jockey Optional |
| Photography |
Professional photographing team with formal setup shots |
Professional
photographer - candid shots |
Candid
shots |
No professional, a friend with a camera |
| Videographer |
Professional videographer team with hand held or tripod camera |
Professional videographer hand held camera |
Candid
shots |
No professional, a friend with a camera |
| Coordinator |
Professional coordinator and team |
Professional entertainer |
Professional entertainer or family member |
family member of personal friend |
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July 9, 2007




















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